2/28/14

What do you do when there's a particular person that you want to avoid but keeps on following you? I'm not talking about those crushes or anything but I have been in that situation for quite some time now.

I have a particular officemate whom I used to be close with but due to some misunderstandings and some realizations, I have come to terms that my friendship with this person is affecting me negatively and all I can be with that person is to have a civil relationship.

Even before, my officemate was so clingy for some reason. Even in personal matters, he would often be snooping as well as expecting too much from me. I would receive plenty of random messages asking all about the same thing over and over again and it was like a cycle that never seem to end.

When I resigned, I thought and admittedly felt sort of relieved that I won't have too much contact with him anymore. I don't want to burn bridges with anyone but I think that when I left, we were okay.

However, I still get some messages on him on my phone, as well as missed calls on untimely hours and messages on FB. I try to ignore him and whenever I make a reply, I just get bombarded with questions about work. Guess he doesn't get the hint that I quit work for a reason. Some people thought that our failed friendship was the reason I left but that is completely false.

I can't really ignore him as I still need him as my references for my resume. The last I heard about him is from my other officemate who is now feeling the same clingy characteristic from him and even asking for some helpadvise from me how to deal with that. If only I knew how.